“The most beautiful thing a woman can wear is her confidence.” – Unknown
I don’t know about any of you reading this blog post, but for me, how to better your confidence is perhaps the most difficult obstacle I have faced in self-improvement. The great old confidence topic has been an issue for me since I was a kid. Approximately 10 years ago I began to realize that there were so many unimportant things that I focused my energy on. Honestly, every now and again the self-doubt creeper comes lurking around. However, that’s when I pull out my bag of tricks and shoo that self-doubt away. That is why Getting It Right 2Day can now provide all of you awesome W.O.W. Mommas with The Only How to Better Your Confidence Resource You Will Ever Need! Enjoy.
Looking through my old photos I marveled at how beautiful I was. I mean my body was slim, my skin glowed, my hair had great volume, and I was carefree. I wished so badly for a quick second that I could have all of that back again. Life before having to exercise every day and watching everything I eat! As I was remembering that moment I had a funny realization. The realization was that when I was that age I was not completely happy with myself. I wanted to improve how I looked. Feeling too skinny and not pretty at all was a huge issue for me. I hated my curly hair and felt it was too poofy. Now, I am admiring that picture of me wanting to be back at the exact spot!? Go Figure!
Could it be that the How To Better Your Confidence lies in transforming your mindset?
Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy
There is one job that I know us mommas are great at which is critics. At one point or another, we have criticized someone’s food, hair, clothing, children, teaching, husband, and the list goes on and on. The bigger issue is that the person we criticize the most is ourselves. Let’s face reality, that’s why when we judge we aren’t hypocrites, right? The reason why we judge others is because we judge ourselves at the same or higher standards. Why the heck do we do this?
I am really walking a fine line here with this because you have to be self-aware, just not so judgmental. Lost ya? Okay, so it’s good for me to say, “Jeez you really have to start eating healthy.” Then go and get a healthy diet plan together. But, it’s not okay to say, “Jeez you are so fat. You are so ugly. What’s the point of trying to eat healthy because you clearly fail all the time.” Or start a diet plan to eat healthy and mess up one meal and say, ” You see you suck.” That’s the fine line and we have to be careful with it. The second step does nothing to better your confidence at all. Think about it, how is that going to motivate you to change and better your life?
Stop being your own worst enemy and beating yourself up over a mistake. Adjust your mindset to be kind to yourself. Some motivation could be you will start fresh from the start with the next meal or tomorrow you will exercise 10 minutes longer or you will spend a little more time with the kiddos tonight. Whatever it was that you wanted to do and didn’t quite get there right now make sure it’s the next thing you do. Gives you motivation and you get your better confidence because you know how to fix the issue!
Focus on the Baby Steps
Yes, sweetie, I know that the mountain is beautiful and you just want to see the view from the top. That desire to see the view is great for your passion. But, what usually happens is that as soon as the physical stress kicks in then the mental stress will take over. Then as you look at how much further you have to go to get to the top of that mountain overwhelm makes it seem impossible. Although, your passion to see the view at the top is still there that desire just doesn’t seem so urgent. Self-doubt is killer. The goal is to better your confidence so focus on the baby steps.
The desire to see the view from the top of the mountain is awesome. The passion to get to that mountaintop is necessary. The plan of how you are going to get to the top of the mountain is critical. I am a risk taker personally so I would normally go out and do it. Failing over and over eventually I would get it right. But, the confidence takes a hit over and over. Some people don’t recoup from that so easily. This is why it is important to have a plan. Better your confidence with baby steps in your plan.
- “How far can I get before I get tired and need a break?” Know that you will need a break, but once you can pinpoint that you have reached target point 1 you will have the confidence to get to target point 2.
- “How fast do I want or need to get to the top of the mountain?” Refine your plan. Make sure to set reasonable challenging expectations. This way everything you do feels like an accomplishment.
- “What happens if I get lost or too tired? How do I make sure I keep going?” You will feel like giving up. It’s natural because quitting is always the easy way out. Find what’s going to motivate you and get you to better your confidence to fight through the struggle.
- “What am I going to do once I get to the top?” This step is CRITICAL because this is adjusting your mind to the fact that you are going to get to the top. It also heightens your pleasure senses and will definitely better your confidence!
Clear Your Mind, Breathe, Don’t Take it Personal
If any of you follow me on Facebook then you know that this is a challenge I faced just today. Awesome drivers here in the state of Arizona took me out of my happy place. That and the fact that my daughter had just lost her volleyball game. Anywho, when your day is challenging and you are at a high sensitivity to react negatively just clear your mind, breathe, and don’t take it personal. Road rage is everywhere and may be one of the most common actions to offset someone’s day. Let’s look at one that affects us mommas that we probably don’t like to share too often.
The day has been insane with your running around like there’s no tomorrow. Your kiddo is grounded for whatever reason and asks you for their phone back even though they know they are grounded. You are highly stressed and snap back, “If you don’t stop asking it will be another week.” Your kiddo’s heart is broken and then they become angry and their response is, “You are so mean. I hate you.” They storm off. Momma, you just a bucket of cold water thrown all over you. You start to blame yourself because you were upset and your confidence as a momma declines quickly. Don’t do it!
Clear your mind, breathe, and don’t take it personal. Definitely don’t go in there right away cause kiddos can be momma confidence killers when they are angry. Let things cool off and then go in and explain the situation and explain why rules are rules however you do your thing. Make sure to hug your kiddo afterward and the I love yous are always a great way to better your confidence!
This step applies even to your work situation. Problem with the boss, employee, customer? Clear your mind, breathe, and don’t take it personal and you will be amazed at how you better your confidence because you handled the situation like the W.O.W. momma you are!
Pull Out Your Sexy from the Closet
When I look my best please always know it’s usually because that’s when self-doubt is trying to take over. The one thing I know stands true for every woman, every momma, there is that one outfit that you just feel “W.O.W” in. So, if you need to better your confidence I am going to direct you to your closet. Pull out your sexy outfit from the closet and do your makeup and hair. Step out of the house to that thing that you’ve been meaning to do and feel the glances!
The boost of better confidence will get your mind adjusted and you will be ready to take on the world! Now if that doesn’t better your confidence then pull out the other sexy. The one for the hubby and that’s a win-win for both of you. But, I won’t go into that topic 😉
It’s the damnedest thing for us mommas. We are so stressed, so tired, we know that we need alone time and when we finally get it we feel guilty. Tell me if that’s not the most confusing wiring of our brains that there is.
Stop it! Enjoy your time. Tell your mind to allow you to enjoy this break. I mean really momma, we don’t go too many of them. Smile, laugh or sleep, dance or enjoy a massage and be spoiled, whatever it is-do it. Take some time away from hearing mom, mom, mom, mom for just a little. I know it’s a precious name. But, sometimes being called the name your momma gave you can better your confidence too! How? Because it allows for you to appreciate that time you have with your kiddos when you see ’em again.
You Rock Momma!
Whether you put on that sexy outfit, you had to clear your mind, breathe and not take it personal or you’re starting your baby step you rock Momma. Remember to get away for a little and let everyone appreciate each other. Confidence leads to success. There is no way that you are going to reach success without having better confidence momma. So definitely take the time out to take care of you! And go out and get yours! Remember to share and show others, it’s all about Improving US!
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